Because personage of field of a lot of duty shoulds not with the boss, or conflict with colleague happening, find new job under stretch and go, but after the event regrets deeply again. Miss Wang is a typical case.

　　 Case: At the beginning of Wang Jing (alias) , 28 years old, apply for some culture company to do finance affairs before New Year, outstanding achievement is very good. But a bit let Miss Wang feel insufficient: The boss is very severe, pursuit is perfect, it is a job mad. And small fault appears in wanting the job only, criticize before the face of everybody instantly, never take outer part to oneself. The financial forms for reporting statistics that before long she reports before makes mistake (the problem that she considers as sale and storeroom) , the boss is right her be furious, she is driven beyond forbearance bunt after the boss, crying to develop the office of a boss. The following day, she is given on resignation letter, leave in anger. This already was Miss Wang found new job under the 5th impulse inside 3 years.

　　 Analysis: Measure a result to look from case and character, miss Wang is do not stabilize character in apparent extroversion (bile is qualitative) on the foundation, the mood behavior control that appears below long-term pressure circumstance is undesirable. Extroversion of Miss Wang disposition, enthusiastic, candid, be clear about what to love and what to hate, but mood, act is more impulsive, feeling is in overtones. The person that matchs with disposition (indrawn stability) become the friend that show utter devotion easily, but with disposition cat-and-dog the person gets along, easy become acute is contradictory, generation conflict. Fall in the circumstance of long-term pressure especially, easy angst, nervous, once encounter sudden incident, with respect to out of control of impulse of meeting occurrence mood, behavior.

　　 Processing: 1, the disposition that understands oneself. If can understand oneself individual character characteristic clearly, hit precautionary needle ahead of schedule, can have when impulse appears place is conscious, vigilant, take a few step.

2, recognize part. Everybody needs him basis the position in the group, the part conversation that expects by the society works. Miss Wang is in with the boss there is clear part in getting along not Qing Dynasty and part conflict. The relation of boss and subordinate is obedience and the relation that are subject to, the boss is not close friends, can get used to administrative style of the boss only, cannot let a boss indulge his.

3, institutional control, timely drain. Mood and behavior control have a basic principle, that is not spoken forever namely and make the word that cannot save and issue. Should notice when drain at 2 o'clock: It is to should hold to be spent suitably, 2 it is to want to avoid direct openly conflict as far as possible, can pass other way changeover and raising of things to a higher level. For instance, rigid drain: Athletic sports, hear music, pour out to the good friend, read, write a diary to wait; Soft dissolves: To the thing that produce, according to above offerred train of thought, calmly ground is analysed and think, be enlightened, accumulated Yu Ye to be dissolved. 　 　
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